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Are You Speaking Your Teen’s Love Language?

Last updated on June 20, 2012 by Sozo Staff Leave a Comment

Loving your teenager looks different than loving your small child or even your adult child. In the throes of raging hormones and emerging independence, teens will often shun familiar shows of affection that they relished as children. Even if you’ve fostered a close relationship with your son or daughter as a child, in many ways, you need to get to know him or her again as a teenager, exploring the most effective ways to communicate your love to them during this time.

Understanding How To Communicate Love

Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the New York Times bestselling marriage book entitled The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, has written a companion to the book that focuses on uniquely showing love to your teenager. In The Five Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively, Chapman tailors his message toward teen-appropriate applications of showing love based on these five primary “languages”:

  •  Words of Affirmation
  •  Quality time
  •  Receiving Gifts
  •  Acts of Service
  •  Physical Touch

Understanding the Unique Needs of Teens

Chapman asserts that the key to understanding teens is strongly connected to realizing their dual quest for independence and self-identity. The unique challenges faced by today’s young people compound the difficulties inherent in making major life choices, many of which become the focus of the teenage years. Even with all the peer and media influence, though, Chapman makes a good case for the fact that even today’s teens do desire to have positive relationships with their parents.

If teenagers’ emotional need for love is met, then they’ll be equipped to navigate the seas of adolescence, even in the tumultuous culture in which we live. “When teens know their parents love them, they will have confidence to face the negative influences in our culture that would keep them from becoming mature, productive adults. Without the love of parents, the teenager is far more likely to succumb to the evil influences [around him or her]” (p. 31).

Chapman describes something that we as adults have often recognized within ourselves- an innate desire to be nurtured by, connected to, and accepted by our parents. Chapman has observed that “when this happens, the teenager feels loved. When the teen does not feel connected, accepted, and nurtured, his inner emotional tank is empty—and that emptiness will greatly affect the behavior of the teen” (p. 31).

Turning Understanding into Action

The most difficult part of the equation is that the issue isn’t about whether you actually love your teenager or even whether you communicate that love. Rather, the issue at hand is whether you communicate that love in a way that your teen understands.

If you’re not sure exactly what the five love languages are, you can read more about them here. Once you grasp the basic concept, the next step is to determine which of the five love languages might be your teen’s dominant one. You might want to start by sending them an invitation to complete Dr. Chapman’s love language profile for teenagers.

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